Resentment. Resentment is huge for me. So is letting God take over everything for me. As a human, I feel I can do it. But I can't. My way got me to where I am now. I need to try someone else's way. That way is through the steps and God.
I cannot change my past. I can learn from it, forgive myself and others and make better choices in the present so my future is bright and sober and happy.
So I am going to work very hard on letting go of my resentment towards my biological mom for the drugs and alcohol use she opened showed me. I am going to work very hard on my resentment towards my step-father for the drug use, of which I had become accustomed. I will work very hard on my resentment towards my uncle for sexually abusing/raping/molesting me for the numerous years it happened. I will work on my resentment towards my dad and his side of the family for not pressing charges against said uncle, and allowing him back to family functions, where I and other girls were in attendance, once I turned 18. Can you imagine. Having to see your molestor.
Here is the problem. In those statements, I am the victim. But I cannot be a victim any longer. I can't. I won't. It isn't healthy. I have to forgive. I have to give it all over to God. If I want to live a safe, happy, sober life, I have to give it all over to Him.
I know I am powerless over alcohol. I understand I cannot to this on my own. I know I need help.
These are the original twelve steps as published by Alcoholics Anonymous:[10]
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
These first 4 steps...I am excited. I am ready. I want to be different. I want to be healthy.
I cannot let myself turn into my biological mom. Because that is what was happening. I resented her for what she had become, but I was becoming her. It is no wonder I hated myself. I just didn't realize, until everything cleared, why I was so unhappy.
With the help and grace of God, the support of my family and friends and working the program, we got this!
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